Would you do this?
These days lot of disabled people want to do all things for themselves and get upset when people try to help them like maybe open a door or other things..
Today I had to do some banking and mail out a bill..its was quit a hot day so after I did my banking I had to mail this bill,,What I did was drive near a grocery store and video and park not to far from the mail box…I hated to get my chair out and put back in so I waited a few minute and this lady walk near my car and I ask her if she would put the letter in the mailbox and very plesent she said yes and smile..
Call me lazy,but I have no problem asking for help…..
i am mainly trying to point out,it does not make you a weak person to ask for help…
Many able body people see us as being bitter and mean spirits at times..
I will tell you two stories that happen to me over the years..
I was out with a friend eating at a burger king or something like this..anyway this little old lady was on her way out and saw me…and she came over to me and ask if she could kiss me on the cheek..I said sure..and I don't think she ask because she felt sorry for me..
Another time a lady ask if she could hold the door for me and I said alright,,she told me she was afraid to ask cause she ask another person in a wheelchair and they got all over her…
I myself have no problem asking for help..I mainly do this is to let people know were not all mean and that when ask if we need help..
I always been a positive person when out in public..and I am not a lazy person..I have lot to do with keeping up my house and paying all the bills……
It was just my sewer bill..she coud't cash it anyway..and beside I saw her put in the mailbox…You need to at times trust people,most people are honest…
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11:07 am
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Sounds reasonable enough to me! I would definitely do the same thing.
10:06 am
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well if i was disabled And needed help then yea
8:29 am
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Seems like you aren't asking much of a question. If it was hard to get out of the car of course I'd ask some one walking by.
5:01 am
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there is no problem with asking for help
9:12 am
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Well, it's a little risky that it invloved money but whatever. You also could have explained that you were disabeled and would be really grateful. Maybe next time. Otherwise I see nothing wrong with it.
3:45 pm
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WellI think people with disabilites want people to know that they're still people and they can do things on their own. I don't think they should have a problem asking for help when they truely need it.
5:41 pm
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If youre asking if I would have helped you, then yes. I youre asking if I would have asked for help, I don't know. I'm not in your situation, but I probably would have asked for help.
9:25 pm
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I don't understand when people are too proud to accept a little courteous help from someone. I wouldnt have a problem with it! I would think it was polite of people. But I can also understand that it may be different if you have been dealing with people 'babying' you all your life because of a disability, and just want to do things for yourself. Very good question!
5:48 pm
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Asking for help to some people is a sign of weakness when in reality it isn't at all! Kudos to you for not being afraid of asking for help!
When I see a disabled person struggling with something I will most certainly offer my help, if it is accepted then hooray! and if it is not, I apologize and be on my way. I suppose some are just afraid that others think less of them.
8:01 pm
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everyone has their own opinion and own thoughts. some people don't like to be helped cause it makes them feel like they can't do anything themselves and makes them feel like they don't have control over their own lives. Other people like having people help them because of reasons like yours and they don't mind being helped by others, they don't feel like they can't control their own lives. It's all people's mindset. I have a friend who is in a wheel chair and so is his brother (long and kind of personal story) and he doesn't mind being helped out but his brother can't stand it. his brother told me why and it had to with being out of control of his life. hope this answer's your question.
5:52 pm
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I think it's great that you are comfortable enough to ask for help, even with the little things. I find myself struggling through some things just because I'm to proud to ask for assistance. If it makes life a little easier I say you did the right thing. At the beginning of Sunday School one of the teachers asks the class if anyone did any spontaneous acts of kindness during the week by asking for help we allow people to enjoy helping others. It really is a pleasure to assist someone.
5:43 am
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I know my limits to my disability. I know what I can do and not to do. I don't think that is a concept of being lazy but being reasonable. When I used my motor scooter a lot when I had my last surgery there was things I had to think very well because am not taking that out for something so simple.
11:39 am
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i would do the same thing, and im not disabled! lol
2:02 pm
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Yes, I would do it and I have. I had to start using a wheelchair about six months ago and am unable to drive anymore because I can't control my legs. When my wife and I are out shopping I will have my wife ask a passer-by for help lifting my chair into the car. It is all she can do to lift it up into the car. Everyone we have asked has been more than happy to help.
8:54 pm
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me too
7:30 am
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I only have a problem when someone offers me help with something I can do on my own.Other than that I don't care if someone offers me help. I am not afraid to admit that I can't do everything on my own.
3:30 pm
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I will never ask for help with mailing something that involves money.
I do ask for help whenever I need it.
7:12 am
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I rarely ask for help, but when help is offered I usually take it with thanks. Sometimes I surprise others by opening the door for them!
5:42 pm
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I would do the same thing.
What gets me though, is I was at the grocery store and there was a man in a wheelchair, trying to get a box of Rice-aroni from the top shelf with a bag of instant mashed potatoes and he was fighting with that for a good 5 minutes. I walked over to him and asked him if i could get it down for him, and he went off like a coke and mentos bomb.
Another time, there was a very old(er) lady , really tiny, in front of me at winn dixie and she had a 2 liter bottle of nestea that she was having trouble getting out of her cart (still don't know how she got it in there in the first place) so, I just walked up to her and asked if I could help. She gave me a big, toothless smile and said, "That would be lovely."
After I checked out ( i only had some baby asprin) she was having trouble getting her cart over the curb, so I helped her and helped her unload her groceries into her car. She gave me a big hug and told me "I've never met a youngster these days as nice and caring as you."
Sha little lady, she gave me 5 dollars and asked for my phone number so she could call my parents and tell them what I did.
It's almost like alzheimers.
There's the over-agressive independent ones
and then there's the sweet, polite ones that dont mind help.
4:55 pm
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I am disabled-I am in a wheelchair.
I like to do as much as I can for myself when I am not in a lot of pain. But I do need help sometimes. I ask people to help me all of the time, but I don't get upset or feel weak when people ask if I need help. I just need to do what I can do for myself- for both me (if I don't use it I lose it) and for others to see that people with disabilities are as diverse as able bodied people-some can do things better and/or quicker and some could not.
We are all different with great abilities in one area and challenged in another.